Evaluation 1 – Are you being abused?


Physical violence is only one kind of abuse.  There are many other ways to experience abuse and violence.

Answer the following 15 questions; based on your number of “Yes” answers you can better evaluate the severity of your situation:

Are you blamed whenever things go wrong, cursed or called names?

Is free time limited to your partner’s interest only?

Do you do more than a fair share of work, paid or unpaid?

Is your partner a “nasty” drunk or drug user?

Are you made to have unwanted sex after you’ve said “no”?

Do you feel you must ask permission to do things?

Are you forbidden to use money? Never buy anything for yourself?

Are you sometimes punished for misbehaving?

Is it impossible to enjoy outside friendships, due to jealousy?

In his / her childhood, was your partner or his / her mother abused?

Does s/he have “Jekyll & Hyde” personality?

Are you the “butt” of humiliating jokes?

Is there a scene if you express an opposite opinion?

Do you “cover” or make excuses for your partner’s behavior?

Do you live in fear of your loved one?


ACTION STEPS: Answer the above questions to find out what actions you should take.

If you have answered “Yes” to 7–15 of the questions, seek help immediately! 

You don't have to deal with this alone.  There is a network of Domestic Abuse professionals who can provide counseling, information and resources.  Depending on your financial position, much of this care is offered for free, or at low cost, based on your income. 

Please seek the proper care and counseling to support you during this time.  Call 9-1-1 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to help find resources in your area. 

If you do not have a safe computer to use, then you can go to a local library, fire station, police station or church and ask for information.