Evaluation 5 – What are the Warning Signs of an Abuser?
Be aware of abuser characteristics and know what people to avoid:
Blames others for his bad mood
Blames others for inappropriate behavior
Breaks or strikes objects
Constantly manipulates you, other people or situations
Controls whom you speak to, when you go places, where you go, what you do and how you get there
Cuts you off from friends, coworkers, family and neighbors.
During an argument they hold, restrain, push or shove.
Easy to anger or easy to be hurt by others.
Terrorizes others into submission when angry.
History of battery exists.
Isolates you from resources: money, food, social interaction.
Is jealous or stalks, calls constantly, visits unexpectedly, checks mileage.
Masterful at fooling others of the truth; may even brag on how easy it was to manipulate, lie or cheat someone else.
Needs to know your whereabouts.
No concern for your desire for sex; holds you down, forces you to perform acts you are not comfortable with.
Manipulates you so you will comply; makes fun or criticizes you sexually.
Polite and charming to others. Different behavior at home that no one sees.
Pressures you to commit to the relationship right away, even if you are not ready.
Questions excessively; interrogation.
Sudden changes in mood from ecstatic to explosive.
Thinks people are out to get him or are plotting against him.
Whirlwind romance; requires quick commitment.
Will not accept responsibility for mistakes made.
Criticizes you because you are unable to meet all their needs or be the perfect mate.
You do not feel safe leaving them alone with your child or pet.
You do not feel safe with them when they are angry.
You feel they are cruel to your pet or your child.
Your sense of safety has eroded or disappeared.
Excessive texting, found spyware on your computer, demands your online passwords.
- Is cruel, demeans or frightens you when you are sick, vulnerable or pregnant.