Myth: Sticks and Stones Don't Break My Bones and Words will Never Hurt Me?

Our self talk is generated by our belief of self, but often stem from the messages of our life coming together in some narrative that is more based in misperception versus a true reflection of how we really are or observed by others.

So many women and men I talk to have experienced negative words, criticism and damage done by family members and those closest to them that their self-esteem has been significantly wounded. These words of others have hurt us, defined us, limited us and even controlled us.

The English language childhood rhyme “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” This rhyme tries to persuade the victim of name calling to ignore and remain calm and good natured despite the words.

This is really not true. Words DO hurt us. They have hurt me, and I have witnessed my kids being hurt by the painful words of other people.

I watched this video of a forensic artist some time ago, but I want to share it with you because it reminds me of how vulnerable each one of is to missing our own beauty.  Most of the time, other people don’t see us the way we see ourselves. They see us as much more beautiful, interesting and fabulous.

©Dove - Forensic Artist Captures Women's Self-Perceptions. Published on Apr 17, 2013

Photo by Christin Hume on Unsplash


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Dr. Brooke Jones, Founder Stronger than Espresso